Jen, kids, hats

Wash, rinse, repeat.   I believe those are the instructions that you find on a bottle of shampoo.  But, I may be wrong since I personally haven’t needed shampoo since 1997.  But I digress.  Wash.  Washing.  To wash.  My strong assumption is that you, like me, have loads of laundry to wash throughout the week.  It was during my laundry time that I had this thought… ALL THESE LITTLE THINGS.

Every day at our home, and probably yours too, we have ALL THESE LITTLE THINGS that we do throughout the course of the day.  Shower, brush your teeth, maybe even floss (at least your dentist hopes so), shave, brush your hair, pluck unsightly eyebrow and nose hairs and that crazy one you just noticed in your ear, get dressed, feed your pets, eat breakfast, pack your lunch and hopefully get out the door in timely manner to arrive to school, work or your place of destination in plenty of time.

Now…you’re thinking, OK sure, what’s your point?  I’m heading there.  Will you hang with me for a bit more?

Have you ever taken a moment to wonder, think of, and dare I say appreciate that you can DO all of these things?  For instance, your shower.  Someone paid the electric bill so that you could turn on the light to find the shower in the first place.  Then someone paid the water bill so that you could have refreshing, clean water flowing through the shower head.  And it goes on.  Someone paid the gas bill to ensure that your hot water heater was working and full of warm water.  I’ve got more.  Then someone, hopefully, keeps the shower nice and clean, spraying it down with some scrubbing bubbles or their favorite cleaning materials.  And someone made sure that there was a loofah, soap, razor, shaving cream, shampoo, a rubber ducky and a clean wash cloth available for your cleaning pleasure.  And so we come full circle. Wash, rinse, repeat.

As I did laundry this weekend it hit me… there are a ton of LITTLE THINGS that Jennifer did.  Laundry, emptying the lint trap, making dinner, cleaning the floors, shopping for our essentials, planning our vacations, packing for our vacations, ensuring that we had doctor appointments, dental appointments and plenty of toilet paper!  ALL OF THESE LITTLE THINGS.

All of these things can become mundane, cyclical and possibly even aggravating.  I don’t have a formula, five steps or any real advice on how to keep them from becoming so.  But what I do want to encourage you to do is appreciate ALL OF THESE LITTLE THINGS that someone does for you; that someone makes sure everything is in place so you can shower, get dressed, eat your lunch, eat your dinner, go to bed and do it all over again – because that someone is truly priceless.

What makes them priceless is that YOUR someone is just crazy about you.  They love you so much to ensure that you are clean, well dressed, well cared for, full and satisfied.  Maybe they haven’t bought you a sports car, a 3,000 square foot home, jewelry  taken you to a fancy restaurant, whisked you away to an exotic travel destination or whatever you deem an extraordinary showing of love.  But instead of looking for extraordinary maybe we could just look for the EXTRA in the ORDINARY and be crazy appreciative of what is done for us.  Maybe we could even jump in and make it a team activity.  Get it done faster, do it together and decide to make it a memory making moment!

One of my most memorable dating moments with Jennifer comes to mind.  Let me start by saying I was absolutely spoiled.  There, I said it.  I hope that my brother-in-law and father-in-law are happy.  I admit it.  Nearly every Sunday afternoon while Jennifer and I were dating I was invited to lunch at the Albright estate.  Jen’s mom, Bev, was a wonderful woman for so many reasons – and cooking was near the top of the list.  The spoiled part is that if I didn’t care for a particular dish, most of the time she wouldn’t make it.  OK, OK not most of the time.  All of the time.  Now, in defense of myself I was happy to eat a peanut butter sandwich unlike my EXTREMELY SPOILED father-in-law who wouldn’t eat a box recipe.  But, back to the point.  After lunch I would offer to help do the dishes.  On one particular occasion I was washing and Jennifer was drying.  Not sure what brought it on but I thought it would be a good time to use the rinsing hose to rinse off Jennifer and proceeded to just drench her there in the kitchen.  Thinking of that moment… and another eventful moment when I caught the Albright’s kitchen curtains on fire brings a smile to my face.  Why?  Because of having a little fun in what could be the mundane, cyclical, maybe even aggravating chores of life.

As I close I am man enough to admit that not only did I take my daughter to a One Direction concert this summer – but I enjoyed it.  I’m sure you couldn’t tell by the look on my face while at the show – but I had to maintain whatever “dude card” I have left.  But in the depths of my soul I was dancing to the best song ever!  Nonetheless my point is that One Direction does a song that includes these lyrics:

I’ve just let these little things slip out of my mouth
Because it’s you, oh it’s you, it’s you they add up to
And I’m in love with you (all these little things)
I won’t let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if it’s true, it’s you, it’s you they add up to
I’m in love with you, and all your little things

All these little things… her smile, her voice, her passion for people, her love of God, her strength, her organization, her tidiness, all the loads of laundry, all the grocery shopping, all of the dinners she cooked, all the floors she cleaned, all the toilets that she scrubbed, all the sinks that she bleached, all the clothes she ironed and all of the things that I never saw that she did because she loved me.  May you have a memory making day, appreciate ALL THE LITTLE THINGS that someone does for you and tell them just how much you do!